This week my husband and I celebrated our seven year anniversary.
It made me think of that saying “The Seven Year Itch”, which then lead me to think of that ‘entertaining’ (please note sarcasm!) show “The Seven Year Switch”. Neither of those sayings fit how I was feeling this week.
We celebrated with loving text messages during the day, my husband hand delivered a beautiful floral arrangement to me when he got home from work and our family of three went out and had Chinese at a lovely restaurant.
My heart felt like it could burst all day because we are in a good place. The love I have for my husband has grown over the last seven years. (I think his has grown for me too!). Our relationship has become comfortable and grown deep. It is not the same relationship it was the day we were married. It is better. It is worth celebrating.
However, each day in the last seven years has not always been easy or happy. We have had our fair share of dark and long days. Heavy, thick and burdensome days.
We have struggled together through job losses and changes, through seasons of infertility then followed by a high-risk pregnancy and premature birth. We have supported each other through the deaths of family members and friends. We have held hands through mental illness and other health issues.
It took me three sentences to summarise just some of our ‘bumps’. Trust me, it took a lot more time to wade through those seasons together.
We have struggled against each other. We have broken trust and then built it again. We have said things in anger, had to ask forgiveness and forgive each other. We have argued different views and agreed to disagree. We have changed over time and learnt how to love the new changes in each other.
Relationships evolve and change. They deepen and develop.
I can look back at the last seven years and see that all of those hard days really were worth it. It is both the great days and the hard days that make our relationship what it is. They go hand in hand. They both create the richness that develops in a relationship. Both are reasons to celebrate.
That might seem a bit strange. The notion of celebrating the hard days as well as the great.
So the next time you realise your husband came to apologise first after an argument. Thank him and do a little happy dance.
The next time you want to lash out but hold your tongue. Give yourself a pat on the back.
The next time you go to worry about your finances and you choose to pray to God and leave it with Him – celebrate that.
When you take those small tiny steps each day to help build or gain trust with your partner again. Celebrate each and every step.
Celebrate – do not take those moments for granted! The hard or the great. Each time you overcome a hard day, it builds into your relationship. Each time you have a great day, it builds into your relationship.
Seven Years Rich
This week my husband and I celebrated our seventh anniversary. As I think about our seven years of marriage, I honestly think the saying “Seven Years Rich” is more fitting. I may not have been able to say this other years. However, it is true. I am richer in love. I am richer in compassion. I am richer in forgiveness, understanding, humility, patience, kindness and joy.
This week my husband and I celebrated our seventh anniversary and I am seven years richer. I will celebrate this on our special day and I will celebrate this through all the great and hard days to come.
What is something you can celebrate about your relationship this week?